It’s been a long time since I wrote an article, and I have a backlog of too much material and stories, so I’ll start by talking about it today: the best way for children to kiss their fathers.Many people have asked me a question: Mr. Liu, children do not kiss with their fathers, how to do?Others say: I play with the child in bed, if the father comes, the child is very unhappy, and must ask the father to leave, or they will start to cry.Others say: Ms. Liu, my child does not want to sleep with his father, nor does he want his father to take him, what is the best trick?

Other fathers told me: I blame her mother, her mother always talks badly about me in front of the child, so the child is distant from me. (Really? If you have a healthy interaction with your child, the child will not be close to the father just because of what the mother says.)

Other dads say: His mom didn’t teach him to be close to his dad. Is that true?

What are we doing when these situations occur?

We tell our children: This is your dad, why don’t you follow him? Go, go to your dad. And so on.

Does that work? Basically, no.

In a child’s world, there are no dos and don’ts, and it starts from his feelings. When he feels warmth, love, fun, happiness and other positive emotions from his father, he will naturally get close to him.

This is a picture of my husband playing with my child.

What is companionship? Companionship is interaction, the transfer of love, the transfer of strength, not being with your child.

When you are with your child.

Not you are playing with your phone, he is playing with toys

When you are with your child

It’s not you playing with your phone, he’s watching TV

When you are with your child.

It’s not you correcting his behavior and making him do what you want him to do.

When you are with your child, play with him

When you are with your child, put the phone away

Listen to your child’s needs when you are with him/her

Children are good kids, and it’s our misguidance that causes some of their problems. So, moms and dads, if becoming a competent parent is something you need to learn.

If you don’t have children yet, you may need to learn how to be a parent for 7 days is enough.

If your child is 3 years old, you may need to learn how to be a parent for 14 days is enough.

If your child is 6, you may need to learn how to be a parent for 28 days.

If your child is 9 years old, you may need to learn how to be a parent for 1 year to do so.

If your child is 12, you may need to learn how to be a competent parent for 5 years.

If your child is 16, you may need to learn how to be a competent parent for the rest of your life.

It is no longer a question of whether or not to study homeschooling and psychology, because it has to be done.

The question now is: where do you choose to learn?

The wonderful trick for kids and dads to kiss is to interact with your kids, play with them, and communicate well with them.