Self-discipline seems to be the fairy water in the skin care products, the fighting chicken in the rooster, the super genetically modified rice in the crops, under a bullish signboard, as if there is omnipotent divine power, as long as you have self-discipline life will be able to hang general, from the slum boys and girls all the way up to the rich and handsome and white rich and beautiful, from carrying a hundred and ten dollars of bags to upgrade to a handful of two three and a half million brand-name bags without pain, as long as you Self-discipline, even if the beginning of the writing punctuation are not right, as long as the future every day to write on the eight thousand words can become a contemporary Eileen Chang, as long as you self-discipline, blah blah blah, how to look like the propaganda slogan of pyramid schemes. Self-discipline is indeed very important, but self-discipline will not make your life open, just like efforts do not necessarily make you successful, but at least can be better than their former selves.

I. Recognize that self-discipline is not everything, in order to better achieve self-discipline

Self-discipline means you are diligent enough, persistent enough, and have good enough habits, but it does not mean that you have divine help in your life, gifted, and can go to the top of life and become famous with self-discipline alone. Van Gogh’s first painting at the age of ten may be the height that ordinary painters can’t reach even after five years of hard practice; Eileen Chang once said she didn’t read ten thousand books, but she put down her pen as if it was an overnight thing; Yan Geling is famous for her self-discipline, but her destiny trajectory, her rich inner world, unique life perspective, and far higher than normal talent are the prerequisites for her success with self-discipline.

We should be clear that self-discipline can be successful and hard work can be successful as well as just leisure time for you to masturbate chicken soup, its role is only to let you cool, and can not really change your life.

My friend Xiaoxiao graduated just joined the work all the way, no professional skills, no solid family, no rich boyfriend, no prestigious background, in addition to a passion can be said to be nothing, the most funeral is her bitch housemate and she was hired by the same company in the same department, the housemate bitch to what extent? In front of the boys a brother, with a girlfriend boys do not avoid suspicion, hugs and shoulders to make out, in front of the girls on the face of a mother, as if they owe her ancestors; Xiao Xiao’s copy for their own, all kinds of credit in front of the boss, but also pull two straight male colleagues to pander, so that the hard work of writing the copy of the Xiao Xiao not pleasing.

The company she works for is a new department under the name of a state-owned enterprise, and there are only four people in the whole department, and the rules and regulations in various areas have not yet been formed, the division of labor is chaotic, and the work done is not professional at all, which makes her roommate have enough time to play office politics with her. Politics.

The professional is not good, no skills, people are not very self-disciplined dash, can not get out of the environment they do not like and do not have the strength to enter the environment they want to enter, life has just begun to enter a low point.

I asked her which area you need to improve to enter the company of your choice, how long it would take you to reach your standard, and whether your current level of effort and self-discipline could help you upgrade your self-worth within the target time, and she said she wanted to switch to an advertising agency and move from Qingdao to Beijing, and she needed good writing and good English, but she didn’t have either of these skills. It was a coincidence that I was also preparing for a script competition, so I made a three-month appointment with her to practice spoken English every day, memorize an English article of New Concept IV, and write 1,000 words every day to practice writing. Her writing ability also really improved by leaps and bounds, and she had read 50 books in three months. And after three months she didn’t break the rule of practicing speaking, insisting on writing and physical exercise.

Self-discipline does not make your life open, only recognize this point will not be because of long-term self-discipline but did not achieve the desired goal and the long-term development of a good way of life and work in doubt, the same, self-discipline is actually a person healthy and positive attitude towards life, imagine a very self-disciplined people how the future will be very poor?

Two. Self-discipline must also have a strong driving force

Before being self-discipline He brush screen, in a sound of praise, some netizens tease him if not self-discipline how and siblings compete for family property. The reason why ordinary people don’t want to eat the pain of self-discipline for a long time is more because they can’t accept the result that self-discipline is also an empty basket. But we can’t do He, at least to see if the balance in the card and the price of housing is proportional.

At first I wrote purely for the ideal, but later found that how to write can not write Sanso, can not write Zhang Eiling, how to write can not create a new way of language, but in the era of content can be realized, writing can at least bring me income, become a career planning road I can rely on skills, whether I do writers, screenwriters, writers or brand planning, as long as the need for content output Whether I am a writer, screenwriter, copywriter or brand planner, as long as I need content output, I can use writing as a fulcrum to start my own career layout, so I have a high passion for writing every day, much more passionate than when I was frustrated by Eileen Chang’s example of writing and was so ashamed to see her genius-like spirituality that I wanted to give up writing.

Self-discipline should have a strong internal drive, what you really want, you really want to achieve the goal is the reason you can adhere to self-discipline, of course, this goal is not a mirage, you want to be the President of the United States or a year from penniless to earn five billion, that really, we should think about forget it, but your goal even if you just want to show off in the circle of friends to meet their own vanity exercise steps that also ok, also is a good driving force.

Three. Self-discipline to abandon perfectionism, not demanding themselves

There are many schedules circulating on the internet that are accurate to the minute, but such schedules only apply to people who have developed an excellent and regular habit under their parents’ education since childhood, and they do not apply to most people.

Self-discipline to make plans, reasonable schedule is good, but not to achieve the perfection of self-management, but when you occasionally lazy and slack can not break the overall rules of work and life, is a flexible space, a process of living in harmony with themselves.

There was a time when I followed suit, waking up at six in the morning and going to bed at eleven at night, studying, eating, working, all the time to the minute, but within a few days I found that this plan did not do me any good except for making me more anxious, I originally woke up at six fifteen to six thirty and went to bed at eleven thirty at night, this sleep time fits with my biological clock, but look at many time management professionals who wake up at five in the morning. I want to forcefully change my biological clock, but getting up 20 minutes early in the morning can make me sleepy all day, and my study and work efficiency will be greatly reduced, so I will give myself 10 to 15 minutes of waking time in the morning. The day is slow and full of energy.

The result was that I lost my enthusiasm for writing in less than a week, because the lights went out at 11:00 every night, and it was nearly 10:30 when I went back to the dormitory and finished washing up, so I turned on the computer. After that, I still had less than 20 minutes of writing time left, so I could only write in the dark after lights out, and entered a state of writing that was completely rushed.

The article is not well written, sleep is not enough, rest time is squeezed, the mind collapse more anxiety, writing, examinations, sleep, exercise routine are disrupted, this is similar to pulling up the seedlings, demanding perfect self-discipline way to make my body and mind in a state of extreme disharmony, and when I began to accept the reality and the gap between the plan, to give themselves enough flexibility space when everything began to improve. If I don’t have a lot of time to write, I’ll write some tips in bits and pieces, and I won’t set a hard word count every day, but I’ll keep the habit of writing; if I’m sick of listening to the news and learning English, I’ll watch American dramas and English movies, and occasionally I’ll want to watch an extra five minutes as long as it doesn’t affect the next task, and I won’t be hard on myself; occasionally I don’t want to exercise, I’ll change the way I exercise, and if I don’t want to run, I’ll go shopping or go for a walk on the beach.

Self-discipline has to abandon perfectionism, otherwise not only will it not get you into a state of continuous progress, it will also trigger anxiety and affect overall planning.