One day, I met up with a friend I hadn’t seen in a while to chat. She, like me, is a full-time mom and a stay-at-home mom.She said:”The one in my family is only responsible for going to work to earn money. When he comes home, I worship him like a grandfather and don’t need him to do any housework.”This friend of mine, a violent temper, speaks loudly, chattering about her husband and children to the endless. Of course, I do not appreciate this point of her, she said her husband as a grandfather as worship, I have heard just laughing.

But a long time later, I do think, she did so, is also a wonderful trick.

1, the way couples get along – potential

In “Dream of the Red Chamber”, Daiyu said when talking about the way couples get along: “Either the east wind overwhelms the west wind, or the west wind overwhelms the east wind.” This is about the momentum when people get along with each other.

When couples get along, either the husband’s potential is higher than one, or the wife’s potential is higher than one, and of course the ideal state – respectful and head-to-head.

I am a sharp-tongued, when I was a child and other people quarrel, the small mouth Ba land very can say. But after I met my husband, but I have never tried to show off my tongue. One is to feel so close to the people, understand it will understand, do not understand that it is not beneficial to say, do not care to say; two is to feel that they should let a let, a man if at home always be their own woman pressed, then the man outside is likely to be a wimp, I should let the momentum to let a let.

As I said, my friend’s mouth is unforgiving. When I first met her, she had a gloomy face and counted her husband out. This time she, in the momentum, pressed her husband head, no, pressed her husband ten head.

I was uncomfortable with her behavior, but I never thought that their marriage was still very strong and secure, and her husband was very trusting and willing to spend money for her. I later thought that this should be attributed to the trick – she worshipped him at home as a grandfather, and did not need him to do any housework.

This trick, so that the potential between the couple tends to balance, so that their marriage tends to be stable.

2, crowned with the name of the high and mighty, for the high table

I don’t think we should worship our husbands as if they were lords, but my husband doesn’t do much housework at home as well. I often complained in my mind that he was not considerate enough.

One day, it dawned on me: why can’t I put the same lack of housework on a high pedestal – I’m worshipping you as a grandfather, and your status is exalted.

So named, put him on a high pedestal, he feels valued, get a great psychological balance, I also save complaints. This is a great trick.

Having said that, there are certainly readers who will think that it is wrong for the husband not to do the housework.

I admit, it is sweet for a couple to do housework together. However, a husband does or does not do housework, it is not something that can be forced on a wife. If my husband doesn’t take the initiative to cook and do the dishes, I usually don’t ask for it. After all, I’m at home full-time, he did it is a love, not to do is the job, the couple is a main outside, a main inside, there is a clear division of labor. Besides, my ideal situation is not that he helped wash the dishes once and cooked once, my ideal situation is not to wash the dishes every day and not to cook every day. Compared with this this ideal, help so one or two times washing dishes and cooking, is really a small matter.

Of course, it has to be said again. When I’m old, I look back on the past, I may feel that now for the children and family busy three meals a day, is how happy a thing ah.

I am a very good hypnotist, as you can see. Well, that’s true.