It has been quite a long time since I came into contact with the concept of detachment, in fact, I have always been detaching, but I think it is still not done thoroughly enough, still not able to keep it simple and fresh. I took advantage of the spring, in the period of recovery, I began to break away, this time the breakaway, the feeling and a little new insight.A concept – breakaway”The concept of “breakaway” was introduced by Eiko Yamashita, a Japanese “clutter management consultant”. Her book of the same name has long occupied the first place on the bestseller lists of Japan and Taiwan, with cumulative sales exceeding 800,000 copies. After it was introduced to China, “Breakaway” has been widely spread and became one of the “Top 10 Buzzwords of 2014”.

“Shed” is a technique to learn about yourself by packing up your belongings, sorting out your inner chaos, and making your life more comfortable. Simply put:

Break: to cut off what you don’t need – to buy less (break);

Surrender: to discard excess waste – to throw away more (surrender)

Detachment: detachment from the obsession with objects – not to be obsessed with materialistic desires (detachment).

Among them, “break” is the entrance, “give up” is the exit, and “leave” is the ultimate ideal state of getting what you want.

Three abilities – love yourself, the power of refusal, and the power of choice

The essence of detachment is to know what is important to you, so you know how to deal with yourself and the objects/events/people around you.

Then in the end, it is an ability to love oneself. Clean out what is uncomfortable, inappropriate, and disliked.

The power of refusal: know what is important to you, can bravely say NO, can better deal with their own and the surrounding objects

The ability to better manage the relationship between yourself and your surroundings and environment.

The power of choice: With the criteria, you know what is important to you, and you need to set aside limited time/space for those things that are important to you.

to those things and people that are important to you.

Steps of detachment

1. Think about what you want. –The exhaustive list

Human nature is greedy, when faced with temptation, many people will have different degrees of performance. Once encountered the e-commerce discount season, such as Double 11, Double 12, will be because of the discount to buy a bunch of things that may not be very practical. This has two underlying psychologies – greed for cheap and wanting more. In this case forget what you really want. The method I use is the exhaustive method. During New Year’s Eve, I need to buy a lot of New Year’s Eve goods, new clothes, etc. for myself and for my family. I call this method the exhaustive method.

2. Ask yourself what you really need. –Subtraction

When I ask myself what I really need, I ask myself: What do I really need? What is my budget? Then my brain’s mechanism will start the rational mode. I did get a little lost in the face of the temptations that were all around me, but I soon returned to rational spending. I took out a blank piece of paper, listed the things I wanted to buy in categories, and filled in my approximate budget. When I took this list, I knew I wanted to buy 2 sets of clothes (one skirt and one dress) for my daughter, 2 pairs of pants for my dad, and just one pair of shoes for myself —— for New Year’s Eve shopping, I would list what I needed to give to those relatives, what each person’s criteria was, and what I expected to buy —— so I felt that my own shopping was more rational this year, and I called this method is called subtraction.

3, re-examine yourself

I used to be a shopaholic, my shopping cart has more than 1,900 collections, monthly Taobao spending of at least 2,000 yuan or more. I now let myself shop in stages, and only shop when I really need to. When shopping, I use both the exhaustive method and subtraction to find out what I really need, what really fits, and what I really like. It’s a good process to look at yourself, and I think it’s also the essence of the concept of shed.

During New Year’s Eve, when I cleaned out my closet, cleaned out my room, and cleaned out my bookshelf, I felt super accomplished. I felt very refreshed and comfortable when I cleared out the redundancy inside me. Next, my detachment position will shift to work and my phone.