The most annoying thing is that the wrong place is not because the child does not know, but purely because of sloppiness, either the minus sign is seen as a plus sign, or read the wrong question, the title clearly asks “which of the following options is not The question clearly asks “Which of the following options is not a class”, but the child circled the word that is a class. The more this mother talks, the more angry she gets, but there is nothing she can do. Whether it’s reasoning with her child or making her child practice hard, the results don’t seem to be obvious, so what should we do?

In the book “The Psychology of Good Moms”, Ms. Ling said that a mother, Tian Tian, also encountered the problem of her child’s sloppiness, and it took her two years to help her child solve the problem, and her child’s math score went from the bottom few to the top of the class. How did Tian Tian’s mother do it? Let’s hear it.

When Tian Tian was in the second grade, she was at the bottom of the class in math exams. Tian Tian’s mom asked her math teacher to analyze the math exams and found that Tian Tian lost more points because she didn’t understand the questions and missed some of the conditions in the questions, so she made mistakes. The math teacher told Tiantian’s mother that children of this age have not yet developed their reading skills, so they may not read the questions and miss important information.

So, Tian Tian’s mother took 30 minutes out of her day to read, and she and Tian Tian each read a book, and then exchanged ideas with each other. Over the course of the semester, Tian Tian has read hundreds of thousands of words. This is quite a lot for a second grader. The effect of reading a lot on improving math performance was also obvious. By third or fourth grade, Tian Tian’s reading skills had improved dramatically, and he rarely lost points in problem solving. There was another unexpected gain: because she read every day, Tian Tian slowly fell in love with reading, and her essays became better and better, and were published in the school newspaper many times as model essays.

This is Tian Tian’s mother’s first trick to solve her child’s problem of sloppiness – reading.

The second trick of Tiantian’s mother was to stop checking Tiantian’s homework and let her child check it herself.

This is because Tian Tian’s mother found that if parents check the child’s homework, the child will become dependent on it: Mom will check my homework later anyway, so it doesn’t matter if I write wrongly, I will correct it after checking it out. If you think so, you will be impatient, and when you encounter difficult problems, you will easily scribble them perfunctorily and make a high error rate.

Therefore, Tian Tian’s mother told Tian Tian that in the future, she would not check your homework, but you should check your own draft, and if you make a mistake and don’t check it, you will have to be criticized by the teacher. However, in order to let Tian Tian adapt to accept it, her mother and Tian Tian agreed on a “transition period”, during which Tian Tian could choose three problems each day that she was not sure about and let her mother check them.

During the period when she first let go of Tian Tian, the situation was worse than before, Tian Tian’s homework was a mess and she was criticized by the teacher several times. Tian Tian’s mother held back and was determined not to interfere in checking his homework. After a month or two, Tiantian slowly got used to checking his own homework after doing it, and his correct rate improved greatly.

The third trick of Tiantian’s mother is to ask her child to make neat drafts.

Tiantian’s mother asked Tiantian to make a draft of the problem and the draft should be as neat as the homework. Where there is a problem, mark it with a different color pen and focus on it when checking. A neatly written draft can, on the one hand, make the child’s thinking clearer and help deepen his understanding of the meaning of the problem by deducing it step by step. On the other hand, many children are sloppy when they check their calculations, such as copying the wrong numbers, not aligning them, or writing in a sloppy manner so that they can read their own writing wrongly. If the draft is neat, you can avoid these problems and help your child develop a clear mind and a habit of doing things carefully.

The last great tip from Tian Tian’s mother is to encourage your child to play more sports.

At first glance, it sounds like exercise has nothing to do with sloppiness, but in fact, children in the early grades lose words, copy wrong numbers, and make one more or less stroke, which seem to be sloppy problems, but in fact, they are also related to the lack of brain development. Exercise can promote brain development and stimulate the connection of neurons in the relevant parts of the brain through physical activity, which is very good for improving children’s memory, concentration and self-control. Elementary school is the prime time for brain development, so instead of keeping your child stuck in front of a desk and not seeing any results, you should take him on a wild run and play together.

Tian Tian’s mother understands the benefits of exercise for her child, and takes Tian Tian downstairs a few days a week to run laps, or play ball, jump rope, or ride a bike, often with mother and daughter sweating and panting. On weekends, the family often takes a full day to go hiking.

Tian Tian’s mother said, to say that the exercise has any immediate effect, that did not see. However, in the past two years, I feel that Tian Tian’s concentration has improved and he can focus on one thing for a long time, which is a great help to solve Tian Tian’s problem of sloppiness.

The methods mentioned above seem to be ordinary, but Tian Tian’s mom has been doing this, and Tian Tian’s math scores have significantly caught up since the fourth grade, and he has been in the top of his class. Tian Tian’s mother spent two years helping Tian Tian develop good study habits, and the problem of sloppiness, without even realizing it, was no longer a problem.

More importantly, Tian Tian had many unexpected gains in the process, including better health, improved reading and expression skills, and a sense of responsibility for herself and confidence that she could do well.