We often hear such a statement, that is, which woman is lazy, do not love to clean up the home, outside the dress clean, the home is a mess. But rarely hear someone with “a man does not love to clean up the house” to say things. The implication is that women clean up the home is a part of the job, and men do not clean up the home is the lack of women to take care of.Why is there this difference? Because from ancient times to the present, our traditional concept of cleaning up the home is a household chore, is a woman’s share of the work, this concept for thousands of years are bound to women, so that cleaning up the home has become a woman’s necessary ability, if any woman does not know how to keep house, from the surrounding public opinion will make women blame themselves.

The man is the clutter at home as a state, a man living alone, the home is a mess, outsiders will only say that men without women to take care of is not, and no one will accuse the man is too lazy, too incompetent. And the man himself, will be affected by the above concept, think clean up home is a woman’s business, so their own home clutter is not their responsibility.

In fact, the way to clean up but a simple job, it does not matter men and women, we should abandon the negative emotions, no need to blame themselves, to face it with a normal mind.

Tidy up home or office or tidy up their own dress or even tidy up their own life or, like using excell tables to filter data, the most necessary items, people and moods to filter out, the excess, useless discard the behavior, which is the key to reduce. If the items are cluttered, the mind is busy, too many outsiders, will make us overwhelmed, tired to the extreme.

Of course, reducing objects is only a means to an end. We must first clarify the relationship between the objects to be reduced and us. If one is living the kind of life where there is no consciousness and no self-awareness of the items all the time, then there will be more and more items in the house. Because of a trip to a place, we bought a lot of souvenirs to eat dust at home; because we like a film and television characters, we bought a lot of his peripherals for decoration; because the trend of a certain style of sneakers, we also want to get a pair to show the new trend. For the new items to be added, I have introduced how to buy the items you need.

For the existing old items, which are to be discarded? Most men are obsessed with items from the past, such as game CDs that they were obsessed with, martial arts novels that represent their youth, 200G of “study materials” hidden in a computer disk, and even comic strips that they loved as children… … These things always feel like a memory, as a treasure collection, but the person never thought about whether it is in the love of the item itself, or just satisfied with the “collection” of this behavior.

If it is indeed out of love, then even if it is a pirated CD or a pirated book, it has a strong bond with the item. If he likes the act of “collecting”, he will just prove his existence by having many items. He will show his friends “I once got a platinum trophy on this game”, “I once heard the voice to know which actress”, “I once collected all 12 zodiac signs girlfriend, how great! “?

Everyone needs a sense of existence and wants to seek external recognition, men in particular, a little poor or even ridiculous achievements are proof of their uniqueness, which is why men like to keep certain items as evidence of their existence and recognition, rather than the real love of the item.

In terms of saving items, women are better than men, because when there are new styles of clothes, new shades of lipstick, new models of cosmetics, they are always eager to discard the old to make room and time for the new. Therefore, women are not as calm as men when it comes to new additions.

Therefore, first find your relationship with the item, whether it is out of love, or no longer useful, can not be parted. If it is out of love, then keep it, if just can not give up, then review these items from their own occupy how much time, space, energy and other energy, the occupancy of energy will be roughly classified, the average level above the discarded, the average level of less than, may first keep a month, a month later with the same method of screening, and eventually find out if there are still things you like in it Something, or the second screening felt redundant, all thrown away forget.

This matter of packing, regardless of gender, does not matter old or new, and not only in the goods, the truth is common, leaving us useful, discard useless, but also a refreshing environment around it.